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Saturday, September 13, 2008
Not Going Nowhere
The video at the bottom of this blog is the song "Not Going Nowhere" by Babyface. He wrote it for his kids when he and his wife went through their divorce. I first heard this on Oprah. She had a couple episodes regarding children and divorce. They were excellent and full of wonderful advice. If you never had the chance to see it, I recommend the book by Gary Neuman "Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce" listed in my shelfari. It will help you in dealing with your children and helping them get through this. And, please don't think that your children don't need help because they "seem" alright, because chances are their internal dialogue is flooding them with thoughts of blame, unanswered questions and sorrow that they may be hiding. I have been on both sides. I am a child of divorce and a parent of divorce! (FYI: I am not a parent of divorce because I was a child of divorce. Just so that part is clear. I know that can be the case, it is not the case here.) I know what it's like to hide your suffering to protect everyone else. Please, don't be afraid to talk to your kids.
I am LDS. I am a mother. I am a sister. I am a daughter. I am no longer a wife. I can not nor could I ever say "I married my best friend" or "I am married to the most wonderful man in the world" or anything along those lines. I wish I could, but I can't. I feel envious when I read all that stuff and I wonder if it is really true so much of the time. Are all the bloggers really married to the most wonderful man in the world? I'm not so sure. I do have some amazing kids that help me through the dark times. For that, I am truly thankful. I happen to have an Ex that makes it extremely difficult to co-parent properly. This is the basis of many of my struggles. I'm just a girl trying to pick up the pieces of a life that came crashing down around her. Trying to stay positive, but not always suceeding. Trying to remain faithful and obedient. Trying to mend our broken hearts. Trying to find our "new" normal. Trying to make a better life then the one I first chose. Trying...