Saturday, September 13, 2008

Not Going Nowhere

The video at the bottom of this blog is the song "Not Going Nowhere" by Babyface. He wrote it for his kids when he and his wife went through their divorce. I first heard this on Oprah. She had a couple episodes regarding children and divorce. They were excellent and full of wonderful advice. If you never had the chance to see it, I recommend the book by Gary Neuman "Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce" listed in my shelfari. It will help you in dealing with your children and helping them get through this. And, please don't think that your children don't need help because they "seem" alright, because chances are their internal dialogue is flooding them with thoughts of blame, unanswered questions and sorrow that they may be hiding. I have been on both sides. I am a child of divorce and a parent of divorce! (FYI: I am not a parent of divorce because I was a child of divorce. Just so that part is clear. I know that can be the case, it is not the case here.) I know what it's like to hide your suffering to protect everyone else. Please, don't be afraid to talk to your kids.


Heidi A. said...

Yes, I'd LOVE to add your blog to my list!
Thanks for stopping by mine. It's so nice to know we're not alone in this all!

I hope you'll continue to blog when you can! You have a lot to share and I, for one, truly appreciate it!

Strong and determined said...

I'm so glad I found your blog. It helps so much to know I'm not the only divorced LDS mom around!