Long time no post...

It's been a very busy life lately. I am finding it a challenge to combine, motherhood, church obligations and a social life all at the same time. I have had so many friends and acquaintances come to me since my divorce seeking friendship, support and answers to their questions. I remember being in THAT place, which is why I wanted to start this blog. But, I'm finding it very difficult to keep this blog up and running. I have so many desires for this blog, but if nothing else, I would like to provide links to sources and other blogs that do a better job than I do. I will still keep trying to get this blog up and running. Please feel free to make comments and suggestions. The more support we build for each other, the better off we all will be and the healthier our children will be! Ultimately, that is what is most important!

Utah's dating coach

This lady is awesome. Buy her book and follow it! It's called "Dating Game Secrets for Marrying a Good Man." It's a must-have for anyone who is constantly attracted to the "wrong guys" or has low self esteem or needs to learn basics like flirting. Get in the game!

Not Going Nowhere

The video at the bottom of this blog is the song "Not Going Nowhere" by Babyface. He wrote it for his kids when he and his wife went through their divorce. I first heard this on Oprah. She had a couple episodes regarding children and divorce. They were excellent and full of wonderful advice. If you never had the chance to see it, I recommend the book by Gary Neuman "Helping Your Kids Cope with Divorce" listed in my shelfari. It will help you in dealing with your children and helping them get through this. And, please don't think that your children don't need help because they "seem" alright, because chances are their internal dialogue is flooding them with thoughts of blame, unanswered questions and sorrow that they may be hiding. I have been on both sides. I am a child of divorce and a parent of divorce! (FYI: I am not a parent of divorce because I was a child of divorce. Just so that part is clear. I know that can be the case, it is not the case here.) I know what it's like to hide your suffering to protect everyone else. Please, don't be afraid to talk to your kids.

The Beginning...

Everyone has a beginning. Everyone has a story. Everyone has terrible chapters in their stories. So terrible that at times you think you can not go on another day. But, then it clears, even if for a moment. The storm passes and you can breathe again. You have time, whatever length it may be, time to prepare for the next chapter. This blog is a place for me to put my thoughts. A place to talk when no one else can bear to hear it anymore. A place that you may find respite from the terrible chapters in your life. This blog is for those that truly want to put the children first and do what is best for them. The children's story is the story that matters. Their stories tell us if we did it right. I want to do it right and I know so many of you want to do it right. It's not always easy to do the right thing and it's not always fun. My hope is that when our own story finally comes to an end, that our children can say that we made it easier for them. That we cared about their story and how it will end.